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The Biggest Mistake I Made While Casually Dating
A lesson in showing excitement for someone new
As many people know, the dating life is not all it’s cracked up to be. Romantic comedies do a great job tricking us into thinking dating is carefree and dynamic, filled with laughter and never-awkward sex. The reality, however, involves basically the opposite.
While dating, you’re in an incredibly vulnerable spot in your life. Your self-esteem is consistently taking a beating, and your anxiety can skyrocket with a single risky text.
I know because I’ve been there. For about a year, I was a part of this dating scene, getting to know people over drinks, walks, and the occasional museum visit when I really wanted to look cultured. It was fun, but it for sure wasn’t all rainbows and sunshine.
During it all, the highs and the lows, I experienced the same reality many people go through. What was different, though, is how I talked about my situation with people close to me. Looking back, I can identify one thing I did (or rather didn’t do) that made this part of my life a lot harder than it ever should have been.
I stopped showing excitement about meeting someone new.
