Being A Woman Can Be Tiring
Being a woman can be exhausting.
America Ferrera in the Barbie movie said it best: “I’m just so tired of watching myself and every single other woman tie herself into knots so that people will like us.”
I find myself sometimes wanting to shield parts of my personality for the fear that I’ll be judged harshly. That because I’m a model and I take provocative photos, that it somewhow devalues me as a woman. Yet two things can be true at once. We can be both professional, and sexy. We can be confident and smart. We can challenge the status quo and still be gentle and soft. We deserve to be heard and seen regardless.Society says that if you are a mom you shouldn’t do “this or that”. We are shamed for embracing for sensuality. Told to cover ourselves up and be modest. We have our voices drowned out in a world that thinks men know better. As a black woman we get stigmas thrown at us being ghetto, “the angry black woman” and are treated as less than in many circumstances. To the point that there are statistics that show the percentage of black women that die from maltreatment because when we speak about our pain it’s not taken seriously.
I had a conversation with a man the debate was this: “ that black women are the only race of women that complain about how they are treated”… that we should “ be grateful, because it could be worse…”
In this world it becomes hard to simply be a woman when the world tells you everything you are doing is wrong if it’s not the way they think you should be.
So let this be a reminder to the beautiful, brave, courageous women out there.
YOU are smart, sexy, wonderful and so many other things. Don’t let this world tell you or make you feel any different 💯 👌🏾
Vonche is a self love advocate and Natural Hair Model. You can check out her blog on medium Vonche Ogburn and her modeling / personality content on IG @voncheisrandom
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