7 Painless Ways to Be More Confident

You don’t need to crush your comfort zone.

Sinem Günel
Sep 22, 2020 · 9 min read

“When you have confidence, you can have a lot of fun. And when you have fun, you can do amazing things. “

— Joe Namath

Confidence must be earned

Confidence is not a personality trait. It’s a skill. You can strengthen your confidence muscle by making the right decisions one day at a time.

Get out of your head

It’s hard to be confident if you’re constantly worrying about the past or the future. And most of our insecurities are rooted in our thoughts. Your fears, judgments, and doubts all exist in your head.

Go with the flow

According to the Gallup Institute, less than a third of all employees can use their strengths at work. Yet, those who do use their strengths every day are six times more likely to be engaged in their jobs and three times more likely to have an excellent quality of life.

Meet your best version

Being more confident is so much easier when you know why you’re doing it.

  • Business/Career
  • Finances
  • Family and Friends
  • Fun and Recreation
  • Spirituality/Religion
  • How do you take care of your health? How do you feel in your skin?
  • How do you handle your finances? What’s the ideal career path?
  • What about relationships? How do you deal with your loved ones?

People inspire you, or they drain you

You’ll struggle to believe in yourself if you’re surrounded by people who don’t believe in you. And if you’re around those who love and support you, you’ll be more aware of your strengths and uniqueness as well.

“You can’t control people but you can control who you surround yourself with. Choose to surround yourself with people who believe in you and great things will happen.”

— Robert Tew

“No” is a full sentence

If you can’t say no, you’ll end up living other people’s lives instead of your own.

“I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”

On your last day, you won’t be proud of satisfying others’ needs. Instead, you’ll regret not having lived your life to the fullest.

“Half of the troubles of this life can be traced to saying yes too quickly and not saying no soon enough.”

— Josh Billings

Eat, sleep, move, repeat

It’s no coincidence that confident people are healthier and live longer: Studies prove that confidence sparks positive emotions that lead to health benefits.

Focus on the good things

Recalling our mistakes and worrying about the past is so much easier than being proud of our wins. Most people are great at beating themselves up by recalling negative memories and past failures. Yet criticizing yourself will always reduce your self-esteem.

“You’ve been criticising yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.”
― Louise Hay

Final Thoughts

Confidence isn’t something you begin with but something you end up with if you keep doing the right things long enough. It’s the byproduct of your performance, not the other way around.

“All confidence is acquired, developed. No one is born with confidence. Those people you know who radiate confidence, who have conquered worry, have acquired their confidence, every bit of it.”

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Thanks to Philip Hofmacher, Michael Thompson, and Amardeep Parmar

Sinem Günel

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Entrepreneur, Coach & Dreamer. I write about Personal Growth & Business. 🇦🇹 🇹🇷 Grab your Personal Growth Toolkit: http://bit.ly/pgtk0320 I IG: sinem.guenel

Personal Growth

Sharing our ideas and experiences.

Sinem Günel

Written by

Entrepreneur, Coach & Dreamer. I write about Personal Growth & Business. 🇦🇹 🇹🇷 Grab your Personal Growth Toolkit: http://bit.ly/pgtk0320 I IG: sinem.guenel

Personal Growth

Sharing our ideas and experiences.

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