7 Toxic Habits You Can Let Go Of Before 9 A.M.
A Tribute to Marc & Angel Hack Life
Marc & Angel’s blog has been an inspiration to me, so I created a post in their style.
Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die — Buddha
Do you sometimes hit the snooze button more than once in the morning?
When you wake up, does your brain go immediately into overdrive?
Do you think about all the things you have to do today and instantly start worrying what could go wrong?
I’ve been there. Not long ago, I didn’t want to leave my bed in the morning. I’d browse around on my phone, read some emails and procrastinate.
When I finally got up I was often running late, so I would rush into the shower, get angry about stubbing my toe somewhere and end up with no time to eat.
By the time I got to work at my internship I was already feeling behind, so the best I could do was spend the entire rest of my day trying to “catch up”.
But the internship is over and so are my chaotic mornings. Now I know exactly what the first hour of my day looks like. I don’t even have to think about it, because it’s a set routine — and that’s wonderful.
It makes starting the day easy and sets me up for a successful day, every day. They say how you spend the first hour of your day determines how you spend the rest of it.
It’s absolutely true.
Before you can add new, good habits, you must always do something else first, though. Let go of the bad ones.
So here are 7 toxic habits you can let go of before 9 A.M. to make you feel calm and happy as you start your day.
1. Let go of hitting the snooze button
Hitting the snooze button in the morning feels great at first. You know you still have time and drift back to sleep.
But when your alarm rings again 7, 9 or 15 minutes later you were actually just about to enter a deep sleep phase. That means the snooze button interrupts your sleep at the worst time, making you feel more groggy and tired as you were before.
What’s more, every time you hit the snooze button you tell yourself subconsciously: “I don’t really want to get up. I want to stay in bed. I don’t want to start this day and face what lies ahead.” That’s not a very good mantra.
Even when you have to get up with an alarm, as soon as you wake up, rise and shine! Be excited for the day, get up, have a glass of water, start moving around.
Brush your teeth, read, do something that makes you excited about getting up.
Don’t drag yourself from snooze to snooze, as it will make you drag yourself through the rest of the day as well.
You snooze, you lose!
2. Let go of overthinking
This is what I call “monkey mind”. I still fall for this from time to time.
Right upon waking up I start thinking. And I think a lot. My brain starts racing down a never ending train of thoughts.
“Okay, let me check what time it is. 6:07. That’s good. I can start work right at 7:00. What will I start with? Oh yeah that guest post I want to write for Marc and Angel. I’ll spend 30 minutes on that. Then I’ll do some client work. But what do I eat for breakfast? This cereal I bought yesterday? Or the one I have left over. Damn, I don’t have any milk!”
That’s what the first 30 seconds of my day can look like. Terrible, right?
So be sure to practice a form of conscious silence in the morning. Lie in bed, close your eyes once more before you get up and just feel everything. The blanket on your skin. Your head resting on the pillow.
You can also do a short meditation by just sitting upright and cross-legged on the floor and focusing on your breath for one minute.
Notice the rhythm of your breathing as you inhale and exhale.
What also helps me is standing under the shower, just letting the water run over my head and only listen to the sounds of the water.
Don’t go from zero to overdrive right upon waking up. Practice a little bit of silence for your mind and you’ll feel much calmer for the entire day.
3. Let go of consuming bad things
We all draw a line when it comes to consuming toxic food, drinks and drugs. For some the line is marijuana, for others it’s alcohol, others draw it at coffee, or even soda and fast food.
Wherever you’ve drawn your line before, chances are you need to draw it again. Because what is true for food is also true for thoughts.
You can spend your mornings watching news and Youtube videos, reading gossip, chatting in WhatsApp groups and reading the obituary section of the newspaper.
Or you can read a book that will help you create a better life, let yourself be inspired from classic poetry or a good novel.
You can eat pancakes with bacon for breakfast. Or you can have oatmeal with an apple and cinnamon.
You can drink lemonade from the store or brew your own coffee fresh from home ground beans.
What comes out of your mouth and brain in terms of speech and thought can only be as good as what you put into it in terms of food and knowledge.
Take a stand. Draw a line and make a choice to only consume what’s good for you in the morning.
4. Let go of negative self-talk
Remember that hitting the snooze button is like subconsciously telling yourself you don’t want to wake up? I’m willing to bet you also do this on a much more conscious level.
You worry about what the day will bring. You tell yourself you might not have what it takes to deal with the day’s challenges.
“Will Joe approve my presentation?”
“Can I get all my housekeeping done?”
“I’m not sure I can make that call today.”
Instead of already talking yourself into failure, why not boost your confidence? Create a small set of affirmation that you can tell yourself. It can be as short as one sentence:
“I will do great today.”
“I will give my best to make this day successful.”
“I believe in myself.”
Before you brush your teeth, stand in the mirror, look yourself in the eye and tell yourself something encouraging.
Be your own Dad, your own Mum, your own partner, your own friend and do what all these would do: motivate you by telling you that you can do it.
A tiny adjustment that can change the entire trajectory of your day.
5. Let go of getting angry at little mistakes
Yes, not all mornings will go smoothly. Sometimes you will have to rush, get stuck in traffic, or hit your elbow on the door.
But don’t start yelling. Every day the world throws many opportunities at you to get angry — and many of them deserve your anger.
The little hiccups in the morning are not one of them. Don’t focus on what goes wrong, focus on what you do great.
The 5 pushups you did. The glass of water you drank. That smoothie you made for yourself. The way you motivated yourself by saying something positive. A chapter in a book you read that made you feel inspired.
Remember that silence in the morning is important to make you feel emotionally calm. So when you hit a bump in your early morning road, take a deep breath, remember all the good things about your morning and move on.
6. Let go of rushing
There is a Japanese proverb that goes like this:
“When you are in a hurry go slowly.”
It means that it is especially important to take enough time to do things right when they are urgent.
A classic game played at kids’ birthdays is balancing an egg on a tablespoon while walking from one end of the room to the other.
Who wins that game?
The kid who tries to walk very fast, but eventually drops the egg and has to go back to the start multiple times (or breaks the egg altogether), or the kid who just walks very slowly, but reaches the finish line in one go?
The more you rush the more mistakes will happen. Slow down, do everything once, but do it right.
The best idea is to give yourself plenty of time in the morning. I usually give myself an hour to an hour and a half before I get started on work.
Yes, that means waking up earlier, but the time is spent so well it is absolutely worth it.
You’ll have time to visualize the tasks of your day. For example just picturing yourself typing when you want to write a novel has been scientifically proven to make it more likely you’ll actually start writing (and enjoy the process!).
A journal is also a great way to spend the extra time and get some structure. I usually write into my one-sentence-journal before I start work.
I just answer one question: “How do you feel right now?”
It helps me make sure I’m ready to go and don’t start when I don’t feel good.
So even when you don’t have much time in the morning. Don’t. Rush.
As famous basketball coach John Wooden said: “If you don’t have time to do it right, when will you have time to do it over?”
7. Let go of your comfort zone
Imagine a typical morning of the average person:
Waking up in a bed with a comfortable mattress and a warm blanket, artificial light on the nightstand, waiting till the last minute, then jumping into a warm, hot shower.
Afterwards a quick pre-processed meal for breakfast while watching a video on a smartphone, before they’re off to the next comfortable, modern amenity: their car. With air conditioning, radio and a seat warmer.
All of these modern conveniences are great, but they have detached us from what’s natural.
Our ancestors woke up outside, on the ground, with the rise of the sun. The first thing they saw in the morning was sunlight. The first thing they heard was the sound of the birds.
There was no rush. They got up, started moving around, stretching.
If it was cold, they would move more, if it was warm a little less. They ate what they had gathered the day before or had to go look for food.
If you’re day often feels challenging, that lies mostly in you not challenging yourself at all. We’re not used to being challenged.
We’re not responsible for creating our own food, furniture, gadgets and hot water. We don’t even have to move, if we don’t want to!
Which is why exercise is a great start.
Give up a little of the comfort you indulge yourself in every morning.
When you get up, do some exercise. Do a set of pushups. Try some squats. Do pullups on your door. Go outside and run around the block, or at least walk. Get up, get moving, get some blood flowing.
Prepare yourself a meal that takes effort, but is healthy. Just sit and eat in silence, without technology to distract you.
Open a window, let in fresh air, listen to the birds and the hum of the city as it starts to wake.
Walk to work. Take the stairs instead of the elevator. Have a cold shower.
Let go of huddling up inside your comfort zone. Challenge yourself. Just a little bit. Every morning.
It will leave you prepared for what the world throws at you during the rest of the day.
The morning is the greatest time of the day. There are so many opportunities to set yourself up for success.
But a beautiful morning doesn’t happen by accident. You have to work for it. You have to create it.
Try to let go of one of these toxic habits today. Then another one. And another one.
If you feel like you’re ready to take the next step and want to create a morning routine, then I encourage you to try The Miracle Morning.