Forget Positive Thinking. This Is How To Actually Change Negative Thoughts

Make your self-talk work for you instead of against you.

Melody Wilding, LMSW
Personal Growth

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There’s no shortage of self-help gurus who swear that repeating positive phrases to yourself can change your life. They say that if you simply tell yourself “I am strong and successful”, your fears will disappear.

If you’ve tried using positive affirmations, you know that it can be a difficult habit to maintain. You may spend five, 10 or even 20 minutes reciting your affirmation, but the other 23 hours of the day? Chances are that your mind drifts back to old, repetitive thoughts that have burned deep grooves in your brain.

The problem with positive affirmations is that they operate at the surface level of conscious thinking and do nothing to contend with the subconscious mind where limiting beliefs really live.

It goes without saying that if you command yourself to think “I am abundant and attract wealth”, yet your deeply held core belief is that you are never enough or unworthy of your success, your brain will be quick to incite an inner war.

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Melody Wilding, LMSW
Personal Growth

Author of TRUST YOURSELF. Executive coach to Sensitive Strivers. Human behavior professor. Featured in NYT, NBC, CNN. https://melodywilding.com/book