How to Move Forward When You Don’t Have Closure

The desire to have closure or resolution in any given situation is human nature.

We like to have things come full circle and we want explanations for things that we don’t understand. We can find it very difficult to move forward if we don’t have the type of closure we want.

This happens in many relationships especially after a break up. Most people are familiar with the term ‘ghosting’ — when somebody becomes silent and won’t respond to your messages. You may have a desire for closure and they have no desire to respond.

We want a new crush to text us back, we await a call after our job interview, we had an argument with someone and they’re not willing to make amends. All of these experiences can result in feeling a lack of closure.

We ask questions, we wonder, we ponder. We have thoughts that run through our brains about why we aren’t getting the response we desire so much. We create stories about why people aren’t responding in the way we hoped.

In doing these things, we can continue down a rabbit hole of unanswered questions and hurt feelings.