I Have No Clue Where My Life Is Headed

And I’m Completely Fine With It

Jeff Barton
Apr 24, 2018 · 4 min read

I used to think I knew what I was doing when it came to life. I had everything figured out. The house, the family, and the stable job. For a while, life was really good. Or so I pretended.

My life is unrecognizable compared to one year ago. It’s completely changed.

That is life. Your life can turn a complete 180° sometimes. It can change in an instant. And when someone says that phrase, many of us believe that change is bad.

But instant change can also be good.

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If I look back now, I’ve never had life figured out. I followed what was expected and what everyone else was doing. I was faking it.

And it made me believe I was in control.

But the truth is, I’ve never been in control. Until now.

-Seneca from Moral Letters To Lucilius, Letter 23

Like the quote above from Seneca, I’ve spent most of my life being swept along by the current in the river of life. I’ve been content to allow others to guide where I’m heading.

Not anymore.

I will not be torn by the violent current. I will not be left at the bank.

I’m in control now. I’m in charge. Others do not have control over where I’m going and where I will end up. It is up to me.

Where that place is, I don’t know. I have no clue where I’m headed as far as life is concerned. I have things I want to accomplish, but I don’t know if I will. I don’t know if what I picture in the future is going to happen.

I’d like my life to go a certain way, and I’m doing what I need to get there. But nothing in life is guaranteed.

And all the above is okay.

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We don’t need to have everything figured out. Nothing says you must know what you are doing in life by the time you reach a certain age.

Nothing anyone tells you will put you on the exact path for an incredible life.

And those people who tell you they have life figured out are full of it. They may think they do, but it’s not the truth. Not one person in the history of the world has figured out this thing we call life.

It’s ever-changing and unique to each person. It’s tough and easy all at the same time. It’s a mystery unsolved.

And it can be wonderful if you let it.

So if you have no clue where your life is headed, you are not alone. There is nothing wrong with not knowing how your life will end up or where you are headed at this moment.

But as long as you have control over it, your life may end up where you want it to be.

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I may lose control of where I’m headed. I may have to jump back in the river.

Yet, whatever happens, I will lead with love and kindness. I will make the most of the time I have left because I’ve wasted enough of it already.

And I will enjoy my clueless journey the whole way. So should you.


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Dad, ultra-runner, author. I write about life, mental health, and running. I am learning how to be a better person everyday, and I want to share what I learn.

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Dad, ultra-runner, author. I write about life, mental health, and running. I am learning how to be a better person everyday, and I want to share what I learn.

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