Life Will Never Be A Straight Line

Stop regretting the bumps in the road

Deb Knobelman, PhD
Personal Growth


Photo by Jan Huber on Unsplash

It’s cold and snowy here in Colorado this time of year, so I spend a lot of the weekend hiking along wintry trails.

I duck under thick green Douglas Fir branches and pass papery white Aspen trunks. Walk along the edges of steep ravines and over narrow bridges that cross rivers completely frozen over. Spikes on my feet, earbuds in my ears, dog by my side.

The hours spent on the trails provide a meditative time. To think about and process some of the events that happen at almost lightening speed during a week overflowing with work and family and the mundane tasks of life.

This past weekend, I remembered a quote from Lao Tzu, a concept that was on my mind a lot recently:

If you are depressed you are living in the past.

If you are anxious you are living in the future.

It is rare for me to ruminate on the past. I spend a lot of time focused on the future. Working toward the next goal, planning the next day, anticipating the next vacation or milestone in my kid’s life. And I have had the commensurate anxiety to go with it.