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Stop Doing it Their Way — Do It Your Way

They’ll tell you you’re too young.

They’ll tell you you’re too old.

They’ll tell you it’s not your time. “You’re not ready yet.”

They’ll tell you that you don’t have the money. When you have it, they’ll tell you that money doesn’t matter.

They’ll tell you that “content is king.” Then they’ll tell you that the way you market is really all that matters.

They’ll tell you that you lack the education. Then they’ll tell you that your Master’s degree doesn’t mean $hit.

They’ll tell you that you don’t have the “connections.” It’s not what you know, but who you know. But when who you know doesn’t know what you want, it’s hard for you to advance.

They’ll tell you why you can’t do it.

They’ll tell you how you can’t do it.

They won’t offer help. Only criticism.

They won’t listen to you, only to their own inner voice of doubt.

They won’t open your mind, they’ll try closing it. They’ll pass their own misgivings and transgressions onto you like a cloak of negativity.

They won’t offer ideas, only excuses.

They won’t offer suggestions, only their own insecurities.

They won’t offer hope, because they deal in fear.

They won’t greet you with love, for there is no embrace in negativity. There is rejection and coolness.

And “You can’t.”

And “You’ll never…”

You’ll hear every reason, every qualification and justification in the book and it will all amount to “It can’t be done.”

Because they’re unwilling to see the light at the end of the tunnel. They’re unwilling to have the foresight and belief that you can do what you truly want in this world.

They’ll continue to dissuade you, discourage you, doubt you and question your motives.

They’ll try to dampen your convictions.

They’ll eclipse your sunlight and darken your hopes and dreams. They’ll hit you with restrictions.

Though if you’re strong, bold and daring none of it will matter.

They’re just someone else’s bluster — foolish chatter.

See the latter is a waste of time and never meant to flatter,

You need confidence and self-belief to mix into your batter.

You will answer the call to rise. You’ll look with clear eyes.

You were never meant to compromise or be cut down to size.

You’re meant for bigger, bolder things. Stay focused on the prize.

You have a vision, so make your decision, to focus on your purpose

You’ll wonder if you can do it, at times you might be nervous.

But all the doubt and worry will get you nowhere fast,

Use your courage and your faith to help you move right past,

All the doubters and haters who told you how and why it couldn’t be done.

Make the bet on yourself, you’re the only one,

who knows what’s in your heart and what you can truly do,

Decide what is and isn’t uniquely right just for you.

Tune out all the other garbage, give yourself a break,

Believe me when I tell you, that decision may be the best you ever make.

Captain Chesley “Sully” Sullenberger’s words are my hope for you and for me: “Everything is unprecedented until it happens for the first time.”

Do it your way and tune out all the angry, jealous, negative voices. Don’t ever give in to what they say. You have a gift that no one will ever be able to take away: Hope.

Listen to your voice. It’s the one that matters.

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Christopher D. Connors

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