The Incompetent Heart: Why People Love to Hate You

We see others as enemies, not people.

Gustavo Razzetti
Apr 14, 2018 · 10 min read
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We are wired to see others as enemies, not people— Pic by Henry Hustava

“From the deepest desires often come the deadliest hate.”

— Socrates

The news roller coaster is hurting me.

Hate Is Personal; What Causes Anger Is Not

“In time we hate that which we often fear.”
― William Shakespeare

Your Heart Was Programmed to Hate Others

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.” — Martin Luther King Jr.

Don’t Play the Hate Game

“I will permit no man to narrow and degrade my soul by making me hate him.”
— Booker T. Washington

The Hierarchies of Hate

“Any person capable of angering you becomes your master.“ — Epictetus

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First Level: Bias

Second Level: Individual Acts of Prejudice

Third Level: Discrimination

Fourth Level: Bias-Motivated Violence

Fifth Level: Genocide

Building Emotional Competency

“Experience is not what happens to you — it’s how you interpret what happens to you. “ — Aldous Huxley

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Gustavo Razzetti

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I help teams and organizations build fearless cultures. Creator of the Culture Design Canvas. Insights → bit.ly/ChangeInsights

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I help teams and organizations build fearless cultures. Creator of the Culture Design Canvas. Insights → bit.ly/ChangeInsights

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