“Throw your dreams into space like a kite, and you do not know what it will bring back, a new life, a new friend, a new love, a new country.” ― Anaïs Nin
I dream, therefore I’m alive.
Why am I writing on the last day of the year? Who do you write for?
I want my writing to be purposeful, to help keep my dreams alive.
I want to inspire you to dream beyond your zone of comfort. To shed some light on your journey by sharing my insights and personal experiences.
So, who am I telling to make 2018 a dream year? To the both of us. I’m giving you the same advice that I give to myself. Let my words help you reconnect with your dreams.
Let Your Dreams Dictate How You Live
“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” ― Eleanor Roosevelt
You don’t owe your life to anyone. Live it without apologies.
Your dreams should feel familiar yet arduous enough to challenge you. When fear and excitement work together, that’s when we teak the leap. Learning and growth happen when we cross our boundaries, as I explain in my book “Stretch for Change.”
This year is up for grabs. Almost empty, ready for us to fill it with our best wishes and desires. This year, and what you do with it, depends on you.
Make this year your dream year. Don’t let someone else’s expectations dictate your dreams, your priorities or what you want to achieve. You don’t owe your life to anyone. Live it without apologies.
Work hard. Pursue what you want. Live your dreams.
Sounds easy, right? Well, everything in life is simple until our fears and overthinking make things seem complicated. Don’t fall into that trap.
You are the only reason why you can fail. When you let self-doubt cast a shadow over your dreams, as I wrote here.
Stop playing the victim in your life. Silence the voice of self-pity. Let go of excuses.
What drives your passion? What gets you out of bed every morning?
Stop allowing logic drive your decisions. A life without uncertainty is not a life worth living. Those who are afraid of failing are afraid of living. Let your crazy-self be in the driver’s seat from time to time.
2018 is your dream year. It’s up to you to make it come true.
How to Make Your Dreams Come True.
When you do what you love, the effort you put behind it feels effortless. Let your dreams dictate how you live 2018.
1. Build a Dream List Instead of a To-do List.
“A recipe has no soul. You, as the cook, must bring soul to the recipe.” — Thomas Keller, American chef
Please walk away from the energy-draining habit of writing to-do lists. Keep your shopping list if you wish. But for what really matters, approach life in a more meaningful way.
Stop shopping for the perfect list that will make you successful. There are no secret ingredients to get you there. Shallow advice, like fresh produce, expires fast, as I wrote here.
Write down all the experiences that will keep you awake at night but for the right reasons. That’s right. I said experiences, not projects. Your life is not a project to be managed but something worth experiencing. Let your emotions lead your dreams. As you jot them down, please also capture the feelings you anticipate once you achieve them.
2. Aim Big but Live Slow.
“Silence isn’t just the canvas upon which music is painted. It’s one of the colors on the composer’s palette.” — All About Jazz
Making your dreams come true is essential but don’t forget to enjoy the journey. I used to think that speed was everything. Moving from one thing to another as fast as possible was my motto. It took me many years to learn from what I was missing. I still have to remind myself that life is a marathon, not a sprint.
Don’t let the size of your dreams overshadow the joy of everyday life. Acknowledge who you are and what you stand for. Celebrate what you have. Being thankful for what you have, won’t make your dreams insignificant.
Changing your pace will make you more interesting, as I wrote here.
3. Learn to Recycle Your Dreams.
“Everything that needs to be said has already been said. But since no one was listening, it must be said again.” — André Gide
We are so obsessed with being original that we forget that no one is listening. I wrote an end-of-year post that made me very excited. It ended up being my worst-performing pieces ever. My initial thought was to forget about it. But then I decided to write a ‘recycled’ article, using the basic idea, but with a different approach.
Don’t just throw away your ideas because they didn’t work out. Remember those goals that you put aside for whatever reason. Do you still long for them? Feel confident recycling old dreams.
4. Let Go of Your Accomplished Dreams for New Ones.
“If you don’t sacrifice what you want, what you want will be your sacrifice.” — Gustavo Razzetti
Your current success can turn into your worst enemy. Glory makes us deaf. When we are good at something, we become comfortable and start repeating ourselves. Even the things we worked so hard to get, can become an obstacle.
Happiness is the art of sacrifice, as I wrote here.
I decided to sell my contemporary modern house last year. We moved to a smaller — still lovely and comfortable — and less sophisticated one. I made a hard, yet conscious, decision to simplify my life to prepare for achieving my 2017 dreams. I published my book and launched Liberationist, a Behavior Change firm.
5. Shared Dreams Are Easier to Achieve.
“A dream you dream alone is only a dream. A dream you dream together is reality.” — John Lennon
Flying solo is fun but discovering life with someone who shares your dreams is much more fun. My wife has always been there by my side every time I’ve started a new venture. Even though some were more personal to me, we still found a way to turn a professional change into a shared adventure.
Having the right partner in our dreams helps keep our passions alive. And it’s also a great reminder of what we signed up for.
6. Build a Foundation to Achieve Your Dreams.
“By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail.” — Benjamin Franklin
Passion without effort is a waste of love. And effort without preparation is the perfect recipe for frustration. Make time to prepare, to build a strong foundation: change requires endurance. Be curious and make time for exploration.
Enjoy your holiday break without breaking your chances to be successful, as I wrote here.
Be smart and take care of yourself. Have fun. Exercise. Relax. Sleep well. When your resilience is put to the test, your body and mind will thank you.
2018 Deserves a Name
“You may say I’m a dreamer, but I’m not the only one. I hope someday you’ll join us. And the world will live as one.” ―John Lennon
2018 is your dream year. Make it count. Give this year a name. One that will remind you of everything you want to achieve.
If 2018 is a person — choose anyone you know — what will it tell you when you meet 12 months from now? What emotions will you feel when you reflect on your conversation with this year?
Use those words as inspiration to name your year. Do it now.
What name will you give to 2018?
Today starts your dream year, my friend. Time to cross the boundaries of your comfort zone again. Stretch for Change.
P.S.: this post is an extract from my Book “Stretch for Change: How to Improve Your Change Fitness and Thrive,” that made it to the Best Reviewed Non-fiction Books of 2017 list by IndieReader’s.
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