Why It’s Important to Look at Water Under the Bridge

The waters may be shallow or deep, but they hold lessons

John P. Weiss
Personal Growth
Published in
5 min readNov 19, 2022

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Photo by John P. Weiss

There’s a place in most of our hearts where wounds take up residence, and we must decide what kind of hosts we ought to be.

The bitter and resentful host will grow weary of these unwanted, painful guests. The reflective, tolerant host will find wisdom and lessons in their presence, despite the pain.

Water under the bridge is often thought of as past events best forgiven, forgotten, or ignored. That way we can unburden ourselves, and move on.

But entombed memories are persistent.

An unceremonious burial may feel expedient, but ghosts easily flee their tombs. Because their job is not eternal sleep.

Their job is to haunt us.

We’ve all met people haunted by the past. Trying to ignore their ghosts. Never looking over the other side of the bridge, where the water has gone.

Ghosts rely on fear.

They know we don’t want to unearth the past. They know we are creatures of avoidance. They are pleased when they win, watching as our confused souls reach unsuccessfully for a happier life.

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John P. Weiss
Personal Growth

I write stories and essay about life, often illustrated with my photography and artwork. JohnPWeiss.com.