Why People Pleasing Behavior Robs Us of Our True Self
Sitting in a dark room surrounded by silence, your thoughts focus on a feeling of loneliness. You feel trapped by the demands of the people who surround you daily. Everyone wants something from you. Your time is not your own.
You want to say something, to speak up about the pressure you feel, but you believe it falls on deaf ears and so you remain in your bubble of inner turmoil.
No one else will ever change, you think to yourself. You have to try harder to make them happy so your personal conflict will fade. If they like you more, they will slowly change their expectations and your life will improve.
Does this thinking strike a chord with you? If so, it’s likely your personality is locked in people-pleaser mode, and your future won’t get any brighter until something changes.
But expecting others to change is futile. Thinking this way is a hollow promise, reinforced through our social media feeds and the imaginary world we build believing everything we see happening in the lives of others.
They all seem happy, so if we keep them happy, our own inner peace will grow, right?
Instead, this instinctive behavior is ruining our life. It strips us of personal control.
