5 Ways To Deal With Mean People
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2 min readJun 16, 2018
The mean person you love, not the one who gave you the finger on Broad Street last week.
Best advice: Leave. Second option: Recognize
- Accept that nothing you do is going to change them. Forgiveness and accommodating behaviours, or confrontations, are all futile weapons. You will end up frustrated and hurt. They will still be mean.
- Play offense, not defense. It’s a horrible way to live, but if you stay with this person, always be one step ahead of the moment. Anticipate that A is going to lead to B or maybe even Y. Casual words or actions may be a set up. Plan your reactions ahead of time and stay on course.
- Never let them see you cry. That’s the ultimate triumph for them, your defeat and loss of dignity is an Olympic Gold Medal for mean people.
- Change you. That’s the scary one, the Big One that is make or break. You don’t deserve this madness, you don’t have to tolerate any action that makes you sad. None. Be prepared, this may lead to physicality of some kind— you may pack and leave or resort to actual violence. Remember, ALL those Investigation Discovery (ID)channel’s stories are based on real-life experiences.
- Don’t clap back, mean people thrive on manipulation. They get a buzz when you are out of control. Always believe you are better than this. You deserve the best relationships, respect, and love.
