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6 Life Lessons from 2021

The year that was and its indelible impact on me!

Every December, I write a piece summing up the year and what it did to me. This year particularly was a mixed bag of tragedy and happiness.

COVID 19’s second wave took a toll on many families. I too lost a dear uncle and one of my favourite Pilates' teachers.

But, while I was on Zoom calls attending online funerals and trying to process the loss, I was also preparing for what would be a turning point in my life — my marriage.

Marriage was something I had almost given up on… It had become a distant dream, one that I believed had run its sell by date. Till one night, when I received a Facebook message from my now husband.

A story that began 17 years ago — but was left unfinished due to several reasons — finally found its conclusion. A long story short, my husband and I reconnected in 2021, amid strict lockdowns, and decided we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together.

So, today, here we are, man and wife, exploring the journey of togetherness, with all its high and lows, with several small daily arguments, but even bigger laughs and smiles.

Life has so many new surprises and challenges each year, but how you respond to them is totally in your hands.

There were several moments in the year when I realised I had to choose between holding on or letting go — be it people, places or small personal battles I believed in.

And, every time I was confronted with these choices, I realised I chose faith and hope. Faith and hope in the one single belief that —

“When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.”

The famous words of Paulo Coelho.

As I look back on the year that was, here are my top six life lessons. Hope you enjoy reading them, and do also share your learnings from 2021 in the comment box below.

1. Believe in the power of miracles

My life partner returning to my life after 17 years was nothing short of a miracle. Planning a wedding of 25 people in a very strict lockdown, a bigger miracle. Recovering from COVID in time for the wedding, a complete miracle. Travelling safely and successfully in the country and outside of it, the cherry on the cake!

2. Those who matter will always be with you

Yes, there are many who showed up emotionally, physically with their presence, and virtually too, watching the wedding on Zoom and giving us their blessings from far. Times of both crisis and celebration determine your truest relationships. My honest realisation is that those who believe in you and wish you well, will always show up.

3. Look at the ‘we’ more than the ‘me’

When you move from being single to married, so much changes and still so much doesn’t. You’re still yourself with all your complexities and strengths. But, what changes is the shift from ‘me’ to ‘we’ — something you work on every day of your marriage. But, that little shift can bring so much joy, and help you experience life with two sets of eyes and hearts.

4. Don’t underestimate the power of Netflix…

Or any other OTT platform. If there’s something that’s helped me keep my sanity through such a turbulent, yet productive and beautiful year, it’s undoubtedly my frequent episodes of binge watching. I’m sure it’s kept many of you occupied and entertained too…especially at times when all we could do was stay indoors locked in.

5. Value good health above everything else

It was a year which clearly spelled out loud: health = life. Nothing else really matters when you battle the dreaded disease. Not jobs, not wealth… not even the people around you. Because, for those who battled it real hard, and may have even succumbed to it, it was a lonely battle indeed, fought in isolation! In 2021, being in good health, and just being alive became our number one priority.

6. Social distance was merely meant for practical purposes

Human beings are social beings, who will come together no matter how hard you try to keep them apart. They will come together with masks, they will do RTPCR tests and fly out to meet their near and dear ones, or they will get on to Zoom or video calls and have long chats to stay connected. Rightfully so, we can’t let COVID determine love and longing!

What we then finally realised in 2021 was that no disease could keep us apart, no disease could take away our hope and faith in a better, healthier world, with fuller relationships, and stronger connections. We, as thinking loving human beings, are determined to “make the world a better place.”

And, as COVID-19 continues to mutate and rear its ugly head above us all, we refuse to let it stop us from enjoying the small and big pleasures of life…albeit with caution, with masks, with double vaccines, boosters et al.

This Christmas may bring a tear to some or a smile to many, but finally its biggest message is that of HOPE… Hope for a new year that will once again be filled with surprises and challenges, both of which we will embrace with gratitude and fortitude.

From our home to yours, we wish you a Merry Christmas, and a very Happy New Year!

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