This is an email from Transformation Insights from Coach Donna Marie, a newsletter by PlantYourSeedsofTransformation.
Can the “Go Big or Go Home” Mentality Work For My Daily Living? My Impatience Wants It To
Can the “Go Big or Go Home” Mentality Work For My Daily Living? My Impatience Wants It To — If I cannot do it all now, then why bother at all?
I have seen lots of bad examples of what it looks like to fail at pursuing your goals. One of the leading examples is rooted in the “all or nothing” mentality. Why bother trying if you can’t lose 10 pounds within a few days? If your financial opportunity is not going to pay out big today, what’s the point?
Unfortunately, our consumer-oriented, capitalist-driven society has targets on the backs of all of us when we have this all-or-nothing mindset. And we fall into this unhealthy mindset, even if it is only in one part of our lives or at a vulnerable time. Near the end of the year, it is not surprising anymore when you see a family member or friend ordering the latest fad diet products they saw on infomercials. You can pretty much see that coming every holiday season. When that tv shopping show host promises they can lose ten pounds in a week just by trying the product with a money-back guarantee, they cannot pass that up. They feel they are taking a big step forward to improve their health, which feels good until it doesn’t work and their refund timeframe has ended.
For people who have gotten caught up in Ponzi schemes, they were usually shown actual large returns. They just did not understand the sleight of hand that was used to obtain those returns. They rarely take the time to dig more deeply into the actual financial standing of the investing institution. Instead, they just got caught up with the great, charismatic salesperson’s stories and the romance or excitement of making big cash fast. This never ends well, as we saw with the victims of Bernie Madoff.
So, if “Go Big or Go Home” is good for gambling in Las Vegas, why can’t we just live like that all of the time?
Well, Vegas is a show town and a fantasy land. That is not real life. Real life is going to sleep and waking up; using the bathroom and taking a shower; dropping the kids at school and going to work. These are the boring every day habits that make our lives successful. So, when we have a big goal to reach, these small daily habits are what get us to our bigger goals over time. The big flashy stuff can really pump you up and motivate you, but only for short bursts of time. Those smaller daily habits are what help you change and get better and be a better person over time.
One more example is the famous parable of the race between the tortoise and the hare. The former is known for his very slow progress through the race, which the crowd believed was only a disadvantage that would cause him to lose. However, the hare’s tendencies to lie, cheat, and steal his way towards that finish line always eventually ended up setting him back, despite that he initially made much faster progress in the race. Who wins the race in the end? It does not matter. The point is that slowly, consistently making progress towards your goals sets you up to be the kind of person you want to be so that whenever you arrive there, you are standing there in your integrity, satisfied with yourself. And if that’s the case, then you have won your own race.
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