The Stages of Narcissistic Relationships

Narcissistic relationships often go through a painful cycle that is a predictable outgrowth of narcissistic personality disorder. Central to understanding a narcissist’s behavior is that their relationships are transactional. Their impaired boundaries and lack of empathy prevent them from seeing other people as separate three-dimensional beings with needs and feelings of their own. Thus, more than most people, they’re motivated by self-interest without considering the impact on their partner. However, it’s important to remember that there are several types of narcissists with varying symptoms and severity of pathology.

In narcissistic relationships instead of deepening love, dissatisfaction and abuse increase. Naturally, this creates conflict.

Who wants to be dependent and dissatisfied, which is typical in codependent relationships? Narcissists are codependent, too, but they express it differently. They don’t sacrifice themselves for the relationship. They sacrifice the relationship for themselves.

Stage 1: Impression Management

Narcissists are drawn to people who enhance their image or status, such as someone successful, talented, or attractive. If you qualify, they brag to impress you so that you will like and admire them. Some narcissists will ask about you and mirror your…