Accused of Man-splaining? Here’s How to Respond Without Escalating the Situation

Saurabh Suman
Poise & Perspective
2 min readJan 9, 2023

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So, you’re in a one-on-one conversation with a woman and she accuses you of man-splaining. What do you do? It’s a tough situation, but we’ve got some tips to help you navigate it without escalating things.

First and foremost, try to stay calm. Accusations like this can be emotional, but it’s important to keep a level head and not let your ego get in the way.

One approach is to ask for elaboration. This allows you to better understand the situation and find out if there was a misunderstanding or if you really were mansplaining. Communication is key, so don’t be afraid to ask questions.

On the other hand, some people may use the accusation of man-splaining as a way to shut down the conversation or make you feel guilty. If you feel like the other person isn’t open to a productive dialogue, it may be best to just end the conversation and move on.

Another thing to consider is whether the concept of man-splaining is a “Kafka-trap” fallacy, where you’re guilty no matter how you respond. In these cases, it may be best to simply refuse to engage and walk away.

But let’s say you genuinely were mansplaining. In this case, it’s important to apologize and acknowledge that you weren’t trying to be patronizing. A little humility goes a long way in these situations.

Overall, the key is to stay respectful and try to understand the other person’s perspective. Whether that means asking for elaboration, explaining what man-splaining is, or simply ending the conversation depends on the situation. Just remember to keep cool and stay professional.

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Saurabh Suman
Poise & Perspective

I delve into the complexities of relationships, self care, and mental health with grace and thoughtfulness, empowering others to live their best lives.