11 Things I Wish I Had Known Before Opening Our Marriage
Practicing non-monogamy taught me more than years of researching non-monogamy
My husband and I had our first intentional threesome right before our first wedding anniversary. Any non-monogamous exploits before that point had been accidental and not entirely sanctioned by the boundaries of our relationship.
Before that threesome, we spent three years talking about non-monogamy. Because we both believed that non-monogamy would be the right relationship strategy for us, our resistance to opening our relationship was more about some of our individual struggles rather than a desire to maintain monogamy. I was insecure and worried that I wouldn’t stack up to any other women my partner became involved with. My partner was afraid to do anything that might threaten the commitment or security of our relationship. We had a lot of work to do as individuals before we opened the relationship.
Now, four years into living in an expansive, committed, open relationship, here are the 11 things I wish I had known or prepared for before we started.
