How I Got Triggered After A Consensual Touch Workshop
What happened when my partner and I explored and processed touching and being touched in each other’s presence
Last weekend my husband and I went to a wellness retreat in the mountains. As part of it, we participated in a consensual touch workshop. It was an enjoyable experience that ended in a wonderful cuddle puddle. Little did I know what would come next… But let me start from the beginning.
We made it just in time for that workshop when we got to the retreat center. After we settled on some pillows in a giant dome, I looked around and noticed that everyone there was quite attractive. “I wouldn’t mind cuddling with any of you,” I thought.
Anne, the facilitator, kicked us off with an intro and a general discussion of consent. Everyone in the room seemed well aware of the concept, so we didn’t spend too much time on it. Then she told those of us with a partner that we needed to discuss our boundaries about touch. “Ask your partner if it would be okay with them if you touched someone else,” she instructed. “Then clarify what kind of touch would be okay with them and what kind of touch would make them uncomfortable. Ask lots of questions!” Folks that came alone were instructed to think about what kind of touch they would be…
