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Obsession Does Not Equal Love
Frequent texting doesn't necessarily strengthen your new relationships, and it may cause tension within existing relationships in your life
One of my best friends is engulfed in New Relationship Energy (NRE) again, and I'll be honest, watching everything unfold is tough. It always is when I am a bystander and view everything from a different vantage point. She's in NRE and quickly jumped into a new romantic entanglement only a week after her other one ended. She loves the excitement and the whirlwind of lustful encounters because it distracts her from some of the other crap in her life. I get it; NRE feels good until it… doesn't. But she has a history of latching on to awful people who do not respect her friendships and relationships with others, and at surface value, this person seems to follow that trend. When she tells this partner she's visiting other friends, the partner messages her memes, Snapchat pictures, etc., which appears intrusive when she's with other people.
We all have a list of red flags we tolerate or dismiss, but obsessive behavior is a huge red flag for me. Last weekend, my friend and I were at a bar, and this new partner would not stop messaging back and forth with her while I spent time with my best friend and listened to music. This new partner hounded…
