Michon Neal
Jan 10, 2017 · 2 min read

Finally, That Integrated Term for Non- Monogamy You Never Knew You Needed

So two of my cuilmates — Louisa Leontiades and Jessica Burde — and I have created new language for our upcoming conference — the inaugural annual Accessible Multi-Linking and Polyamory conference. AMAP con for short.

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Why the new word? Because, let’s be honest, appropriation, oppression, and -isms tend to cloud up and distort much of it.

The words we use matter; they shape the world, alter our interactions, and build our mental landscape.

Nowhere is that more evident than in social contexts, and in our relationships in particular. Especially when it comes to non-monogamy, there has been very little ethical, compassionate, decolonized, or Woke (Intersectional) about the practice, the methods, or the body of work.

Allow me to introduce the inclusive term: multi-linking.

Multi-linking—(n)
from multi (many) + linking (connecting, relating)
the personal quality or practice of co-creating or wanting to co-create intimate connections with multiple people. Connections may be romantic, aromantic, sexual, asexual, platonic, kinky, or take other forms of intimacy. Connections can last a few hours or a lifetime. The nature of connections are determined only by the individuals who are connected.

“I prefer multi-linking to monogamy. I like to have lots of different relationships and intimacies.”

Multi-link—(v) to intimately connect with multiple people. Connections may be romantic, aromantic, sexual, asexual, platonic, kinky, or take other forms of intimacy. Connections can last a few hours or a life time. The number and nature of connections are determined only by the individuals who are connected.

“I multi-link. Right now I’m partners with Dan, nesting with Gloria and sub to Jesse. There are also several people I don’t have defined links with, but who are part of my chosen family.”

Link—(n) an intimate connection with another person. Connections may be romantic, aromantic, sexual, asexual, platonic, kinky, or take other forms of intimacy. Connections can last a few hours or a life time. The number and nature of connections are determined only by the individuals who are connected.

“I prefer having one stable long term link and lots of fun and exciting short term links. My friend Jen wants to find several people to link with for long term.”

Mutli-linking—(adj) of or relating to multi-linking (n).

“Our multi-linking Facebook group is usually pretty active.”


Interested in other inclusive language and ideas? Check out noetisexual, Cuil fiction, and integrated feminism for starters!

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Michon Neal

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Integrated Non-Monogamy, Metanoiac Alethiology, aro love terms, cuil fiction, & more; Speaker; Sensitivity Editor Cuil Press. https://the-metanoiac-portal.mn.co

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