Laughter of the Damned: Isting Scammin Ass Frauds and Non-Monogamy, Kink, Sex Work/Educators, and More…

Michon Neal
Mar 26, 2017 · 4 min read

That’s right. It’s been a while but I’m coming again for all of you with the force of Lilith.

I’m sick of you abusive, thieving, racist, ableist, ignorant Borgs profiting off of LOVE like you actually know the meaning of the word!

Speaking of words, here’s one for you: You’re an ultracrepidarianist.

Ultracrepidarianism is a strange word that describes an all-too familiar thing: opinions and advice on matters outside of one’s knowledge.

From this article.


You destroyed peoples, you destroyed our families, you destroyed our bodies and minds when we survived all that and then you have the nerve to teach “intimacy, sex, relationships, ethical non-monogamy” and other related shit.

Black and brown femme bodies butchered, dehumanized, and sold but you can sell your ass and people love it. Including but not limited to: all non-Black and yte-adjacent/yte-passing sex workers.

You rape and abuse us in private while teaching about consent in public. Including but not limited to: Charlie Glickman, Mel Mariposa.

You talk about abuse while stalking Black people, stealing from us, and demanding unpaid emotional labor. Including but not limited to: Nora Samaran, Mel Mariposa, Aggie Sez.

You literally write a book about being an abusive, manipulative shit and profit from the unpaid emotional labor of all the women you claimed you love. Including but not limited to: Franklin Veaux.

You won’t call someone out yourself but you have no problem enlisting a marginalized minority to do your dirty work. Including but not limited to: Nora Samaran, Joreth Innkeeper.

You actually aren’t even non-monogamous but somehow are still an expert. Including but not limited to: Dan Savage, Elisabeth Sheff.

You racist as fuck but claim you’re intersectional. You come late as fuck to the party to collect your Black token. Including but not limited to: Eve Rickert, Lola Phoenix.

You claim that aromantics, asexuals, and other such pretty unknown orientations aren’t oppressed cuz as a pale Borg, you don’t grasp how race changes everything. Including but not limited to: The Thinking Aro.


You beg us to go to your fucking marches or to ostracize some faggot you like, but ghost when your pasty parties and conventions and conferences happen.

You label us as drama-filled if we’re poor or have diseases your nasty ancestors purposely gave us or are disabled or are basically real fucking people in any way, shape or form.

We are your masturbatory tools, your fucking fetish, and you literally co-opt our cultures — in the sickest form of Columbusin since people thought that dumbass dick thought he was in India (he meant “Indio” as in “In god” but even that doesn’t make him not a total douche) — and practices and DARE TO PRETEND it’s new.


We live in a world colonized and irrevocably altered by yte supremacy you have not even begun to acknowledge or unpack.

You dare to “teach” or speak about consent, intimacy, love, sex, queerness, spirituality, transness, non-monogamy and related topics without even understanding the basic context of the world you inhabit.

You have no set of actual moral standards: you don’t even require partners, speakers, or teachers to be non-abusive!

You are hypocrites at best and damn abusive thieves at worst.

You have literally profited from or directly benefited from the labor and destruction of Black Lives and you ignore us except to try to parade us around.

You play with whips and chains and giggle at your orgies while we were not only forced to do all of that for pale fuckers’ entertainment, but still are the main ones suffering actual consequences for deigning to willingly participate in any of it.

You literally built yourselves a fucking nasty ass masturbatory playground upon our blood and bones and you dare to call it “ethical”, “evolved”, and other such lies.

You say we’re not “qualified” or there isn’t enough interest or how sorry you are while not actually changing shit and still accepting speaking engagements, booking clients, and starting businesses you lack the acumen to run ethically.


What do people who succeed by abusing, raping, and stealing know about trust or love or community?

How you gonna let victims and the marginalized slip through the cracks while you saying love trumps hate?

How you gonna teach about our cultures and practices like we’re exotic or savage or like we don’t fucking exist to teach about our ways our damn selves?

If you don’t even grok that racism is YOUR fucking problem and ain’t got shit to do with Black folks, how the fuck you gonna teach somebody about The Secret/intentions, and shit?

Matter of fact, if you don’t even grok that racism is abuse, how you gonna act like you can teach people how to heal from abuse?


Got the nerve to ignore the political aspects and impacts of your horny amatonormative bullshit cuz you are insulated and protected by yte supremacy (yes, even if you aren’t yte; if you benefit from or perpetuate any ist, you are practicing yte supremacy. Learn your damn history).

Get the Fuck out my face with your alternative fact, pink hat/safety pin solidarity, I’m-only-oppressed-cuz-I’m-not-getting-my-yte-benefts, after-the-fact invites.

You’re clamoring now for queer Black femme voices to assuage your guilt — or to at least suck your cock cuz it’s the only way you can feel something.

This sadistic Black pussy will fuck you up, down, and sideways and you still will not remotely understand the intricacies of intimacy.

Michon Neal

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Integrated Non-Monogamy, Metanoiac Alethiology, aro love terms, cuil fiction, & more; Speaker; Sensitivity Editor Cuil Press. https://the-metanoiac-portal.mn.co

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