Exploring the Different Layers of the Narcissistic Family

It can be hard to see the pain through layers of role-playing and muddy emotion.

E.B. Johnson | NLPMP | Editor
Practical Growth
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6 min readJun 2, 2024

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We like to think of our families as safe places we can run to when the world doesn’t make sense. The reality, though, is that this isn’t the case for everyone. While some people have families that build them up and welcome them, some are products of the narcissistic family system.

These toxic parent-child relationships leave the survivors reeling for years to come, and they do it through a multi-layered system of fear and manipulation. Getting ourselves back to a place of peace (as survivors) requires that we reach a plateau of understanding and empowerment that can free us.

The 6 key layers of the narcissistic family system.

Unlike other toxic family structures, the narcissistic family is one which operates beneath different layers. These move between devaluation, shame, terror, and manipulation. For us to effectively build better futures, we have to see these layers where they lie and…

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E.B. Johnson | NLPMP | Editor
Practical Growth

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