Spotting the signs of a fake apology
It’s not always easy to identify an insincere apology, but it’s one of the most important skills you will ever master.
by: E.B. Johnson
In life (and our relationships) we encounter hardships with others which challenge the bonds we share. Connections build, and then they break down. We make mistakes and we become divided over a number of issues, behaviors, and beliefs. We come back together, though, through resolution and apology. Not all apologies carry the same weight, however. For some, the fake apology is a means of manipulation and shirking the responsibility of change.
Are you getting an authentic apology from the person that you love? Or are you getting something far more thin and superficial? True apologies require us to weigh out our behavior and to confront the parts we play in conflict and misunderstanding. Without that, we are doing little more than manipulating the situation and insulating ourselves from the hard emotional work of making amends with the people we’re supposed to love and respect.
Not all apologies are created equal.
Apologies are a crucial element in bringing our arguments and misunderstandings to an end. We have to admit when we get things wrong and…
