The Healthy Relationship You’re Chasing Is Going to Feel Boring
When all you’ve ever known is chaos, peace can feel a lot like boredom.
by E.B. Johnson
Most of the people I coach come to me hoping to fix a relationship. A few of them want to fix their relationship with their family, but many of them want to fix their relationships with an intimate partner. For those in the throes of a breakup, they want the big answers. How do I find the right person? How do I get it right next time?
The hardest thing to explain to them? That the perfect relationship their hunting for is going to be so much different from what they expected.
It’s not going to be fiery, and exciting, or a-thousand-miles-a-minute. Nope. Healthy relationships don’t work that way. In fact, for those of us who have only known chaos…finally finding stable love can feel like the most boring thing in the world.
Why that healthy relationship is going to feel boring.
You see, that’s because most of my clients come from a background like mine. Total dysfunction. And the thing about growing up in the middle of a dysfunctional environment is that you never learn what a healthy environment really feels like.
