The Narcissist’s Path: At What Point Do Victims Become Perpetrators?
If a narcissist’s story starts in victimhood it doesn’t end this way. Understanding the trajectory can empower us to act.
Where does trauma sit in the story of the narcissist? So many of them have a childhood like that of my mother. They were subjected to horrors unimaginable, but at some point, they became the wielders of this horror for their children and anyone else who loves them. Why? When? At what point does a narcissistic person move from being the one that is hurt to inflicting the hurt?
It’s a complex process, just like narcissists themselves.
Over time, and through their own personal experiences, they are conditioned to use their behaviors to get what they want. Lines get crossed and their worst traits are rewarded for it. That is when the narcissistic person sees it…the opportunity. Trauma becomes the storyline not only of their pasts but of their futures too. Make no mistake, the narcissist chooses to become the villain in the story.
Narcissistic personality disorder and the myth of trauma.
A dangerous trauma myth has been cultivated around narcissism in online spaces. Whether from misinformed…
