The Real Reason You Attract So Many Narcissistic Relationships
Before you get “EMPATH” etched on your tombstone — read this.
My clients are always so perplexed by the time they come to me. Despite years of therapy and hundreds of hours spent learning and researching, they keep falling into the hands of narcissistic people. Why? Haven’t they learned better? Haven’t they broken the cycle by identifying narcissists and every single trait they could exhibit?
When we do a little more digging together, we often come to the same result. Yes, my clients have spent years addressing their relationships with narcissists. Few of them, though, have spent a lot of time truly confronting what it is inside of them that brings the narcissists scratching at their doors.
It’s not the easiest thing to acknowledge. We are happy to lay claim to the pain inflicted by the outside world, but we’re not always as eager to admit what it really is within us that is so attractive to narcissistic personalities.
The tough truth to swallow? It’s not always about your low self-esteem or unstable sense of self (although those are certainly a part of the equation). Sometimes we fall into narcissistic cycles of attraction because of even deeper wounds and toxic aspects of our inner self.
