This Is How Attachment Trauma in Childhood Has Affected Your Adult Relationships

Is it love? Or is the fear of rejection repeating?

E.B. Johnson | NLPMP | Editor
Practical Growth
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7 min readNov 29, 2022

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Each day we learn more and more about childhood trauma and the wounds survivors of this trauma are left with. At least 1 in 7 children experience some kind of major emotional turmoil or neglect. That means if you put 10 people in a room, at least one of them is carrying the shadow of a childhood lived in fear and rejection.

That pain doesn’t come without a cost, especially where our connections are concerned. So much of what we learn about attachment happens in childhood, starting at the age of 3, when we form deep bonds with our caretakers and siblings.

In these earliest connections, we either learn how to trust or learn how to fear. The parents who are secure in themselves and in their purpose will raise a child who feels secure in the love of others. To the child who is left behind, who is emotionally neglected, or otherwise hurt by their parents? The message is not the same.

When you are a child of trauma and dysfunction, the way you connect can become forever warped. Only you can break the pattern of attachment trauma and teach yourself how to love and trust again.

The nightmare of attachment trauma.

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E.B. Johnson | NLPMP | Editor
Practical Growth

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