Why you keep choosing the same toxic relationships over and over again
Think you just have a type? Think again.
by: E.B. Johnson
Life doesn’t happen like a storybook, and neither do our romantic relationships. Despite what we’re promised on soap operas and TV, our intimate partnerships are incredibly complex organisms of their that can undergo multiple levels of change as the days and years pass.
Our relationship strides can be both good and bad, but they can also uncover some of our more unpleasant attachment and coping habits — the worst of which is toxic attachment; the bane of happy couples everywhere.
What is toxic attachment?
Toxic attachment denotes the way in which we form our closest and most intimate bonds. More often than not, when we talk about toxic attachment, we’re talking about behaviors like jealousy, dominance, manipulation, selfishness and desperation. These are the behavioral patterns that destroy and undermines the connections that bring our lives joy, and they’re far more common than you might think.
These poisonous relationships center around a “fantasy bond” or an imaginary perception of what their relationship is (or what they want it to be). A fantasy bond occurs when two people form an illusion that…
