Why we sabotage good relationships
If your perfect partnership has suddenly taken a nose-dive, your tendency to sabotage might be to blame.
by: E.B. Johnson
Even when we find the “perfect” partnership, many of us then engage in sabotaging behavior that ruins the relationship altogether. This behavior can range from emotional outbursts to all-out infidelity, and it can come from a range of strange roots — including the patterns we picked up in childhood, and the irrational attachment we have to our sense of independence and accountability.
In order to stop sabotaging our relationships, we have to get to the root of the issues we face. This requires coming to a deeper understanding of our attachment styles, but also the toxic behaviors that are undermining our connections with our partners. Rather than blowing things up, or pushing away the people we love, we have to come to terms with the toxic patterns that are preventing the fulfillment of promising partnerships.
Working to ruin a perfectly good thing.
Without even realizing it, we can find ourselves in a pattern of continuous romantic sabotage. We latch on, then lash out push them away when it’s time to get close. Sometimes this comes from a fear of letting down our…
