3 Skills That Will Make You Assertive in Daily Life So You Can Make Decisions Without Hesitation
Skill #1: Cultivate your values
Second-guessing yourself makes you sick.
You’re always looking over your shoulder to see if anyone is watching.
You’re always reacting from fear.
You’re always wondering about the decision you “could” have made instead of showing up fully in the one you actually made.
This is a very exhausting way to live. And it transcends your field.
People around you can feel your second-guessing, and it makes you come across as shaky and unsure.
And it displaces your responsibility to them.
This means they have to step in and provide it due to your lack of assertiveness.
Nobody over the long haul is going to put up with that.
Why is it so hard to be assertive?
Our second-guessing is an attempt to preserve a self, an ego that we think we have. This concept is the linchpin. According to Eastern Philosophy based on the Buddhist tradition, most of our second-guessing and suffering stems from believing that we own an ego, a fixed, solid, and real self.
