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Maybe Chasing Happiness Is Making You Miserable
Maybe you just need to give up on the idea of 24/7 happiness
I’ve lost count of the times I’ve asked myself: What makes you happy?
It’s a small but loaded question.
It was one that I used to chew over. On the motorway. At work. On my daily dog walks.
Quizzing, questioning, pleading with myself — if I could just find the answer, I could optimize my life for that.
It wasn’t until I realised that happiness was much more complicated than that, that life was much more complex than that, that I got to the place where I’ve been happier than ever.
Let me explain.
Happiness is not linear
I used to think happiness was a problem to be solved rather than a journey to be walked.
I thought if I just had the answer, I could use that, and suddenly, my life would be perfect.
That’s not true for me. Or anyone I know. Like most people, I solve one problem and am greeted by 10 more. Your problems never end, and happiness is not a tick box.
Instead, it’s a state to be managed, a cup to be filled, a dial to twist.
