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The Fear of Failure is the Only Thing Holding You Back
What’s the worst that can happen?
I used to think my world would totally crumble if I messed up a presentation. In my head, if things went wrong, I’d have to move home, create a new life for myself under a new name, and never return.
Okay, I’m exaggerating, but you get my thinking, right?
If things went wrong, I was doomed. I (evidently) walked around a little scared of life. I remember times I would sit in meetings, totally disagreeing with what someone would say, but too scared to speak up.
I did that for years until I realised what it was doing to my soul.
When I realised what I was giving up by keeping quiet and the silent life I was building for myself as a result of my fear, things changed.
The ideas that we live behind without question
I’d painted this narrative for myself: meek and mild.
I didn’t want to say the wrong thing to anyone. I didn’t question, I didn’t say what I really thought, I just nodded and agreed with the loudest voice in the room. I thought by disagreeing, I was offending.
I thought everything was either appeasing other people or being controversial.
