The Great Thing About Trust
It is never a bad idea
To trust is to surrender to a positive experience. Think of these examples and their positive effects:
- I trust my partner = experiencing loving thoughts and peace of mind
- I trust my financial status will improve this year = reveling in optimism and motivation
- I trust that God exists = surrendering to a divine plan and understanding that the world is outside your control
- I trust in my ability to do this right = operating with a positive mentality, accepting mistakes gracefully, and willingness to try
Trust is a mindset
Trust is not just a feeling or an emotion; it is a mindset that shapes our perception of the world and our actions. Trust involves a conscious choice.
When you trust, you accept the reliability, integrity, and intentions of others despite feelings of doubt, fear, and risk.
You cannot be trusting without being open, vulnerable, and willing to give others the benefit of the doubt. It involves cultivating a positive outlook, assuming good intentions, and being willing to take risks of trust being broken.
Not everyone is trust-worthy
It’s true. We want to be trusting, but often there is concrete evidence not to trust a person; a disloyal partner, a bitter friend, a jealous colleague, or a misleading marketer — all too common these days.
But the problem is not trust. It’s never trusting again.
The Trust Effect
There is rarely a negative residue left by trust — quite the opposite.
Let’s say your friend betrayed your trust and caused you immense hurt. Your trustful nature induced the truth about your friendship. Now, you can protect your heart from future hurt by setting better boundaries.
What you do after trust breaks matters. But to never trust again is a personal detriment.
A healthy human mind cannot operate on the fallacy that everyone is untrustworthy, selfish, or deceitful. A sane mind cannot survive on a condition of overprotection.
It is in your favor to operate on some level of trust. It differs how much you will apply from person to person, and that’s okay. But to wear armor around everywhere you go is a waste of mental energy.
A naturally trustful attitude enables you to navigate the complexities of human connection. After all, trust is the foundation of healthy relationships.
It is an undeniable truth that trust creates a peaceful environment that makes us feel safe, seen, and understood. It results in deeper connections and understanding.
The person you are when you lack trust is an incomplete version of yourself. It’s like being a human without compassion or kindness.
You mistakenly assume that you pick and choose positive traits, but some are conditional to our existence and overall happiness.
If you don’t trust your boss, you will have no reason to perform at work.
If you don’t trust your partner, you will lose a detrimental reason that enables you to love them.
If you don’t trust at all, you will miss out on the beauty of friendships and connections.
Where there is trust, there is love, empathy, and connection.
The only person you should trust less is the person who broke your generous trust in the first place. And even then, you decide if trust is gone or can be revived.
The point is, don’t be afraid of getting hurt.
Let trust be your way of wearing no armor.
Isra A. is a passionate writer based in Bahrain, a little island in the Middle East.
