3 highly effective steps to saving your marriage
When you get to the point of searching for steps to saving your marriage, you have already made the first step. But are there truly steps you can take that Cana vitally save your marriage? Yes, there are, if both of you truly love each other. No matter what has happened in the past. Here we go.
Accept
The first step to save your marriage is to accept what happened. No matter what it was. When you both carry so much love within you, then accepting what happened is a mandatory step.
Accepting does not mean that you agree or justify what happened. It simply means that you accept what happened.
This is an important step in the process. Without accepting, you cannot go beyond your ego, which is necessary.
Accepting also means that you take full responsibility for your relationship. It is never 50/50. It is always 100/100. This understanding will empower you to go beyond past hurt and pain. It gives you the ability to take full ownership of your relationship.
Overcome
The second step to save your marriage is the acceptance of the past, which enables and empowers you to overcome that hurt and move on in your marriage.
In the process of overcoming, it is necessary to face your emotions and fears so that you can open yourself up again for a new beginning with your spouse.
Overcoming means going right through the pain because only through pain can you grow. Pain, discomfort, discontent, all of these emotional states make you grow when you are ready for change.
Rebuild
After having successfully accepted and overcome what happened, it is now time to start taking action towards rebuilding trust, love and passion in your relationship
The third step to saving your marriage is to rebuild trust, love, passion, honesty and openness. Rebuilding requires meeting your spouse with no judgement. You are not arguing in ego mode anymore. You accepted and overcame what happened. Now it is time to rebuild your marriage. Sometimes from scratch, if necessary.
The paradox of rebuilding trust is that you both need to give trust first before you can work together on rebuilding it. You first have to be open for the fresh start, for the growth, for the love in order to be fully open.
Openness through and for love is an essential part of the rebuilding process. Feel the love that you have for each other. This love is the foundation on which you need to rebuild your (relation)ship.
