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How Love-Bombing Is Sometimes Tied to Narcissism
A therapist tries to make sense of the current research.
Showered in affection and enamoured by gifts, we are not necessarily expecting foul play and ulterior motives from our romantic partners. We do expect the best, just as our partners expect the best from us.
However, it seems that the concept of “love bombing” is a major tactic used by people who are possible narcissists.
Let me explain.
Love bombing often occurs at the start of a relationship where you are swept off of your feet, but not necessarily in a good way. You are thrown excessive displays of affection and attention, but to the extent that it is almost nauseating and suffocating.
You might feel pressured to attend a hundred expensive venues or accept a hundred exquisite trinkets, despite having your own plans or goals, since this person (who you barely even know) has taken the initiative to be very alluring.
You might even feel guilty saying no to the things that they are offering you since these may include things you have always wanted, but not necessarily at this speed or expense. Plus, bringing it up to your partner might spark fears of seeming ungrateful.
