You Will “ALWAYS “ Walk Alone!

We are getting more and more lonely in this world. However, we were not told that. But all told us are forgotten. Now we understand better that we have to walk alone.

Mert Bostan
PRODUCTIVITY
4 min readAug 2, 2022

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You Will “ALWAYS “ Walk Alone! We are getting more and more lonely in this world. However, we were not told that. But all told us are forgotten. Now we understand better that we have to walk alone.

This slogan is only for Liverpool Team: ‘’You will NEVER walk alone.’’

We were born alone and will die alone. No one walks this path with us. Those who think like me in this world, please raise your hand. Sometimes I feel like an astronaut who has to live in a satellite orbiting the earth for years. Right now I’m pondering this — why we are alone.

Same question and same sentence in my head... What am I looking for? And then again the same voice says to me, “You will always walk alone.”

I think we’ve been tricked. Yes, someone has fooled us badly. Who are they? Our families, our teachers, our friends, and the television & internet world.. Sometimes even our spouse... Why? Because all of them told many tales that they will always be with us from the day we were born and that this life will always go like this. But when you reach a certain age and maturity, you can’t find anyone when you look around. It’s the same for the person on the other side. Strangely enough, everyone was left alone. I don’t blame anyone. I am trying to understand. Where, when, and what happened that we humans became so lonely?

It was nice to be a little kid. It was reassuring to know that your mom and dad were somehow around you. You were loved once in a while. Then we got a little older and the school years began. A lot of friends surrounded us. They were quite busy and fun years. Then college is over. Semi-professional soldiers — sorry — “bros” like military colleagues, and co-workers surrounded us. We’re starting to feel like these are a little weirder here, but we’ve been hit hard before we know exactly what’s going on. And then we saw that we were in our 30s.

Oh my God! I started a panic. We started looking for alternative solutions with a feeling of panic. And that excellent solution came to our minds. Marriage. We married our beloved boyfriend or girlfriend — at least with the idea that this will stay with me forever. Marriage is like tossing a coin. It’s like an equation with many unknowns, which has many unknowns, even if you know them very well, except for the existence of your spouse. It’s like he’s fighting on many fronts in the war. Just when I say I’m doing well on one front, another front opens up and it’s like you’re trying to catch up there. (Of course not all marriages have to be like this. Mine is just a general hustle and bustle. 90% of it I think)

Wow, what’s going on dude? until you say... you saw that you were alone. This corresponds to the average early or mid to late 40s. But our phone book doesn’t say that at all. The list of registered people averages between two hundred and five hundred. But somehow, in one of the very few moments we have left to ourselves, there are times when we can’t find anyone we can call from that guide. Maybe sometimes we even try to scythe names during our extended stays on the toilet to lighten the guide and feel better. (If anyone does this, please raise your hand )

Has someone coded us to be alone without understanding it all these years? In a world where we’re already worried enough about conspiracy theories, we’re even pondering the answer. Is this the problem we will focus on, or we have become unable to even choose the solution to it?

But we are strong. Who said this match is over? We immediately gather and start our quests to overcome this situation and prove to ourselves that we are not alone. Some of us find ourselves trying to make friends with people we don’t know on social media, and some of us surf the internet on ridiculous platforms. Don’t force it. It’s completely artificial. We leave ourselves in the lap of new trials, knowing that there are hundreds of names on our Facebook page and hundreds of friends on our list. Even knowing what the result will be. But if we meet someone on our Facebook friend list on the street tomorrow, we change our direction and ignore it. We’re looking for something, but we don’t even know what we’re looking for.

As I said, I noticed that I’ve been walking alone lately. I think most of us are in this situation. I can see those raised hands. It’s always the same question in my mind. What am I looking for?

I think what we’re looking for is called LOVE.

If you are asking the same question and looking for the answer, please raise your hand 😊

P.S. I would love to know your perspective on life. I would like to state that I value your comments very much to benefit from the experiences of people outside of my own life. I believe that sometimes it is more memorable to learn from real people rather than from books.

Thank you.

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Mert Bostan
PRODUCTIVITY

Civil Engineer | Admirer of Tony Hsieh & Zappos | Embracing Self-Discovery After 40 | Nostalgic for the 80s and 90s | Dreaming of Life in Ureki, Georgia