Being Queer and Non-Religious While Married to a Straight Christian Man
The dynamics of a straight-presenting marriage
Marriage was the last thing on my mind in my 20s. On top of that, I was with women for years before my husband. I had one or two male lovers in between, but a commitment with a man? I found the very idea terrifying.
Men frightened me. I had heard horror stories from personal friends and all over social media regarding terrible relationships with straight men.
- Abuse of all kinds, mental, physical, financial, and/or verbal
- Cheating
- Creating married, single mothers
- Expecting a 1950s housewife yet urging her to have a job too
Society expects women to work as if they don’t have responsibilities at home but maintain the home as if they don’t work.
No thanks.
Generally speaking, I love men. Many of them are wonderful people, whether they were my friends or the few male lovers I had in my past, but with so much violence done at the hands of that sex, it’s only natural to feel a little apprehensive. It isn’t “all men,” but it's too many of them.
I didn’t want to be another statistic at the hands of a man.
