The Ups and Downs of a Multilingual Gay Relationship
My boyfriend and I speak three of the same languages but it’s still hard to be together
This is a very personal piece to me, but it also seems very worth sharing because it touches on one of the most formative experiences I’ve had in life so far.
It sheds light on the problems of getting into a relationship with someone who comes from a different world than yours, the changes it imparts on you, and the specific way it demands you to actively seek personal growth.
From my name you might not realize it, but I come from Brazil. My second, and very common Brazilian surname is cut off from my profile simply because it’s so popular over there, no one would bat an eye if you used it as a fake name (like Smith).
Being from a South American, Latin American, third-world country comes with a very specific set of ingrained tools in our brains. Most of us are very aware that we come from a different culture, shaped by circumstances that turned colonies into countries.
Brazil was a colony of Portugal for most of its history, and when we gained independence, most of our cultural institutions were already there.
