Truth: I Feel Lonely Even Inside My Chosen Queer Communities
Not Quite Straight, Not Quite Queer: The Loneliness of the Grey Area
The struggle of not belonging continues
Eighteen months. That’s how long I’ve been out as demisexual. Eighteen months since I started the process of understanding why my experiences were so different from my straight friends. Eighteen months since I began to understand why certain past experiences went the way they did. Eighteen months since I stopped being an ally to the LGBTQ+ community and realised that I too belong under the umbrella with my lesbian, gay, bi, trans, non-binary, and ace friends.
I wrote this piece about not belonging sixteen months ago.
Things have changed a lot. I’m much more secure in who I am. I claim the demisexual and asexual labels with more ease and a lot less guilt. Outwardly and to those who follow me on social media who see me talking about my experiences openly, I likely come across as someone secure in this orientation.
