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Starting Our Adoption Journey as a Gay Couple
The First Steps in a Long Journey
My husband and I have been married for almost two years. We’ve been together for six years. Soon after we were married we decided to explore adoption. I am sharing our journey here to let others know how the adoption process works. Since we began the process, we have been asked plenty of questions by others, straight and LGBTQ+, about how adoption happens. One reason for the questions is that in the British media, adoption is rarely portrayed. Lost Boys and Fairies is a rare fine example.
It is vulnerable to share publicly. My husband and I may not be approved to be adopters, or something may change that affects our hopes for a family. I aim to be honest about our journey without oversharing. Thank you for respecting that, and journeying with us by reading about our adoption process.
Why Adopt?
For gay couples nowadays there are myriad options for starting a family. Science enables different possibilities, including surrogacy. My husband and I discussed different options. I felt uncomfortable with surrogacy as I felt it would be an imposition to expect someone to carry a baby for nine months, only to pass it to someone else. Childbirth can be a significant risk to the surrogate physically…
