This is What Stereotypes & LGBTQ Truth (Hiding) Mean to Me
Stereotypes Make It Seem Demisexuals Have a Choice
Not Picky, Not an Old Romantic, and Not Prudish
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4 min readMar 24, 2024
“Demisexual” is a powerful and liberating label for me. It’s a word that gave me so much relief and calm. It provided a sense of understanding and came with a whole load of self-kindness that replaced past self-loathing for not fitting in. And yet I get lots of comments like this:
“Most people prefer some sort of emotional connection before jumping into bed with someone?”
I groaned when I saw that reply on a recent Threads post about the difference between the choice to wait for a bond before you sleep with someone, and not experiencing sexual attraction until you have that bond. It came as some kind of Gotcha, like many of these posts do, for maybe the five hundredth time since I came out as demisexual in September 2022.
