The Agony and the Ecstasy
A Prism & Pen writing prompt

Anais Nin wrote in her diary that “the secret of joy is the mastery of pain.” Alice Walker, in her novel “Possessing the Secret of Joy,” rejects agony as a prerequisite to joy, particularly with respect to cultural imposition of gender.
How do agony and ecstasy intersect in the queer experience? I have my own ideas; what are yours?