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The Death of Adult Film Star Tim Kruger is a Loss for Queer Men Everywhere
The passing of adult film legend Tim Kruger hits particularly deep for many queer men, and his death highlights the unique power of collective grief.
Celebrity death is such a strange phenomenon. Strange as it might sound, sometimes when a particularly well-known or beloved star or famous person passes away, you almost feel as if you’ve lost someone who’s a member of your family. I certainly felt this way when both Betty White and Angela Lansbury died a few years ago–mostly because they both reminded me poignantly of my grandmother, who passed in 2020.
These feelings tend to engender a kind of cognitive dissonance, particularly when people look at you strangely, wondering why you’re wasting precious emotional energy grieving for someone that you don’t know and who doesn’t know you. However, as Emily St. James notes, there’s a particular intimacy that comes from the death of a star, particularly when it comes to one whose career is based on TV, that most intimate of mediums.
That phenomenon becomes even more complicated when the celebrity in person is a porn star.
The other day I was perusing social media when I heard the truly shocking news that…
