Why I Don’t Trust Straight White Men

But still have to police my own sexism around women

James Finn
Dec 18, 2020 · 7 min read

Girls have cooties, gay guys are gross because they’re like girls, and boys rule.

I am very wary around men, and I always have been

Homophobia is misogyny. It is sexism.

Queer men are stuck in a tough PRIVILEGE spot

Queer men are excluded from the hierarchy of masculine privilege

Queer male responses to homophobia

Being a man and not a man at the same time means watching behavior carefully

I’m a queer man who doesn’t trust straight white men. That’s a tough spot to be in, but it’s pretty ordinary. Welcome to my world if you’ve never had a glimpse before.

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James Finn

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Writer. Runner. Marine. Airman. Former LGBTQ and HIV activist. Former ActUpNY and Queer Nation. Polyglot. Middle-aged, uppity faggot. jamesfinnwrites@gmail.com

Prism & Pen

Amplifying LGBTQ voices through the art of storytelling

James Finn

Written by

Writer. Runner. Marine. Airman. Former LGBTQ and HIV activist. Former ActUpNY and Queer Nation. Polyglot. Middle-aged, uppity faggot. jamesfinnwrites@gmail.com

Prism & Pen

Amplifying LGBTQ voices through the art of storytelling

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