PRODUCTHEAD: To err is human
sit down. product up
Posted on Monday, 12 July 2021
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Customer research and validation is critical, but it can’t always make decisions for you
Remedy mistakes quickly and honestly to earn respect
Use the “rule of 10” to put mistakes in context
People remember most your small defining moments
On Friday, Ray Rafiq and I were recording our podcast over video call as we do every week. This time we were interviewing a really lovely person. We had good rapport and energy. They spoke revealingly about how their personal challenges had spurred them to help other people struggling in the same way, and in the process had become a successful content creator and entrepreneur. It was a great interview. We said our thanks and good-byes then signed off.
Then I realised that I hadn’t recorded it.
I had an hour and a half of blank, silent video. I had screwed something up, and the mistake was mine alone.
I thought of all those wonderful and emotional insights we’d explored in that unique interview — gone forever. I’d just wasted our busy interviewee’s time.
The walls started closing in — I was mortified.
As someone who cuts through his procrastination by promising to do things for other people (my fear of letting people down outweighs my desire to put things off), royally screwing up something that affects other people is the worst.
After a few minutes of swearing at myself and my recording gear, some frantic and futile searching for a viable recording, then finally a brief sulk, I confessed to Ray.
He was calm, reassuring, sympathetic and even started apologising to me. He suggested I take a breather, go and do something I enjoy, then we’d reconvene later to figure out what to do and how to avoid it happening again.
Ray often talks about ‘small defining moments’ — the way you choose to react to people in an emotionally-charged situation. People will remember what you did and said, and it will colour their view of you from that moment on. You can get it right or wrong.
We each had our own small defining moment: how I chose to admit my mistake to Ray, and how Ray reacted to it.
In contrast with the modern definition of being stoic (“indifference to pain, pleasure, grief or joy”), the philosophy of Stoicism posits that you can’t control anything except the way you choose to react to what life throws at you — ideally with objectivity and clear judgement.
Product managers can benefit from being Stoic (but not stoic). Whether it’s you or someone on your team making a mistake or poor decision, how you choose to react will be your small defining moment. Choose wisely.
Speak to you soon,
what to think about this week
I find that so little is shared by product managers about their failures, which sucks for newbies because it perpetuates the illusion that all these other PMs execute flawlessly, when in fact most are making mistakes all the time.
This is a story about a really bad product decision I made early on in my career as PM at FreshBooks.
[BRANDON CHU / MEDIUM]
It can be painful to admit when we’ve made a bad decision. Maybe you hired the wrong person, or took a job that wasn’t a good fit, or launched a new product line that no one seems to want.
But it can feel overwhelming to admit the mistake in front of your colleagues and professional network. Here’s what to do when you’re starting to realize you’ve made a bad decision.
[DORIE CLARK / HARVARD BUSINESS REVIEW]
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This conversation on Reddit offers some good advice from product managers to each other. In particular, I like the “rule of 10” to help put the mistake into context, and the extra effort needed to communicate when the dev team is remote.
Ray and I discuss the small moments that define how people see us, and talk about autonomy, mastery and purpose.
[THE PIG WRESTLERS]
Imagine you’ve just been told that you’ll be a member of the team responsible for the first manned mission to Mars.
Now imagine someone asks you how much the mission’s going to cost. The whole thing. There and back. By close of business on Thursday.
[I MANAGE PRODUCTS]
Often the biggest barrier to your product’s widespread adoption is going to be whether it reaches product-market fit early on. Even if you do, you’re wrong if you think you never need to worry about product-market fit again.
[I MANAGE PRODUCTS]
I’m 4 weeks into a new job, having moved states for it, and I’ve recently become a parent for the first time. Currently, I am feeling overwhelmed.
[I MANAGE PRODUCTS]
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