6 Reasons Why Holding Grudges Makes You Unhappy

Nov 4, 2015 · 3 min read

Originally published at lmt-lss.com on November 4, 2015.

Your grudges are holding you and your happiness back.

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Most of us have been screwed over at least once in our lives and we carry those grudges to this day. Forgiveness for the person who caused you pain doesn’t seem like a viable option and we hold onto that resentment. But what we don’t comprehend is that those grudges are holding us back in our own lives.

Sure, the reason for holding onto that grudge makes sense to you, considering how much they hurt you and how you want them to feel that wrath. You want them to be accountable for their actions. But it is really worth jeopardising your own happiness?

Here are 6 reasons why you should let go of grudges to experience happiness:

1. Life is better without the hatred.

Life isn’t fair and it definitely isn’t easy. Instead of minimising your happiness with hatred, completely eliminate this toxic feeling. Your life will improve for the better and it could possibly save you from future problems. More than anything, when you move hatred aside is when you make room for positivity.

2. Grudges don’t benefit you.

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When you hold a grudge, you’re granting that person a constant presence in your life. Keeping them constantly in your thoughts means keeping them alive and reliving those horrible moments. The best way to move on is to let go of the grudges and you’ll be free from the past.

3. Holding onto anger could hurt your heart.

When you bottle up your anger, you are letting it affect your physical health. A study published by the American Heart Association suggests that high levels of anger may increase the risk of coronary heart disease. When you repress those negative feelings, you are also prone to high blood pressure.

4. Letting go of grudges helps you sleep better.

If you find yourself sleeping irregularly, it’s probably because of the grudges you’re holding. A study conducted in 2005 found that people who let go of the resentment they encountered get better sleep quality among other health perks. Yes, when you stop holding onto resentment, you catch the good zzzs.

5. Holding onto resentment causes stress.

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When you hold onto grudges, you are constantly thinking about the events that caused you pain. This bitterness and anger can cause higher levels of stress and an increased heart rate. The only way to reduce the stress is to forgive the person who hurt you so you experience lower physiological stress responses.

6. Forgiveness strengthens your social bonds.

Forgiveness benefits your relationship with your partner, your loved ones, and your family. If there are some unresolved issues, ask for forgiveness or be the one who forgives. When you let go of the resentment, your relationship becomes stronger and the quality of the bond you share improves drastically.

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