What even is Romance?

“A flower being passed romantically from hand to hand” by Evan Kirby on Unsplash

I realized have a bit of a problem with the idea of romance, it is too Idealistic, it’s a dream.

It’s not real.

Romantic gestures are beautiful, we have all thought “oh, I wish so-and-so would do that for me! Just like that movie” but doesn’t that always ruin the moment?

The ideals of romance set by songs and movies removes the romance that would otherwise be found in everyday life. Instead of finding, feeling and enjoying the time spent with your partner you spend your time looking for more.

Extravagant gifts and insanely over-sized bouquets of roses seem to show a more beautiful relationship, but so does a little post-it note saying ‘I love you’, or someone who is happy to rub your feet a little after a long day at work, or simply sending you pictures of the dogs they see through the day because they know it makes you smile.

Romance is about what you are ‘supposed to do’ for someone that you are dating or wish to date, instead the more romantic option is to show them how much you care for their interests, how well you know them, and to show them that they are important to you.

There is not enough emphasis on the love shown by everyday gestures and too much placed on the grand declarations of love.

Romance to me is showing love and support to your partner by doing little things to make them smile and feel special in every moment that you can.


I wrote this article for a series my partner and I are doing called: Prompt of the Week.

Each week we draw a prompt out of our jar and write an article about it. We read each other’s article then record a podcast discussing our thoughts.

This weeks prompt was ROMANCE.

Click the link to see my partner’s take on this prompt: