If Love Was A Test Would You Pass?
You can fool everyone else but yourself ~Author
I thought if love was a test would I pass? I thought love should be shared and you share the love with people. Well, what a quandary I think I would pass but I will have to be honest I would not pass a love test with everyone. I recognize after having this conversation with myself of course that I need to mature a lot more. And for my comedian readers, I can hear you say “She talks to herself”, Yes.
I view myself with a wide lens when in reality it is narrow. I have tried for as long as I can remember to have common courtesy and treat people better than they treat me not the way they treat me. I stumbled over the thought if love was a test could I pass and answer with this response?
With some people I would get an A, while others maybe a C and with everyone else I would need to schedule an appointment with my advisor to to take the test again.
For those in my profession, the medical field and really for anyone who serves a lot of people who have various illnesses mentally or otherwise you learn a lot about yourself. Okay, back to this test that I would have to take again with some people.
I recognized as I have gotten older my capacity for nonsense has diminished down to nothing. I know many have said older people do not have a filter I’m not older yet. I have observed a great deal of sorrow and misfortune and I value life. I don’t take life for granted, nor time and especially not my life. And back to the people, I will fail the love test with.
While people will be people we all have areas that can be amended in some way. My challenge is the mean-spirited, cyberbullies, entitled, rude, and unkind for no reason and those committed to making life miserable for those doing the best they can with the tools they have. I have served such people. I have asked other Clinicians to assist me with cases like those I have described.
What I recognized about the hard-to-love and unlovely people in my story is they were not hard to love I was not the person that could overlook all they had going on and love them. Yes, I have a lot of growing to do I’m better than I was yesterday and hopefully tomorrow will be promising as well.
As a therapist I turn the mirror on myself when I encounter a challenging person. I ask myself the questions below.
1. What are my underlying struggles or challenges with a personality like this?
2. How can you set healthy boundaries and still serve this person or be in a casual relationship with this person?
3. What can I work on within myself?
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